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Re: All the married folks....
Posted: Tue Feb 03, 2009 9:21 pm
by RockBottom
Ive been there before too man, just remember that" Living well is the best revenge and revenge is a dish best served cold!".........When you get through the five stages of grief you will start enjoying single life again, the freedom and everything that comes with it. You may even have a bounce in your step.....stepping so high, we wont be able to hit you in the booty with a sack of red apples...Until then I know your down and it just dont seem fair, God will carry you through.
Good luck.
Re: All the married folks....
Posted: Tue Feb 03, 2009 9:33 pm
by jdbuckshot
sorry to hear that bum!
there will be plenty of turkeys to your east, just shoot me a PM and we'll go!
JD
Re: All the married folks....
Posted: Tue Feb 03, 2009 9:59 pm
by mudsucker
Man TJ, that's a shocker! Love on them girls a little more than ever and let them know you will always be there for them. Use us as a sounding board all you need to. We will listen and we need to have a get together like the ones of days gone by. Hell, maybe 'ol RIP 'EM can make an appearence to cheer us all up. Sorry you have to go through this.

Re: All the married folks....
Posted: Tue Feb 03, 2009 10:27 pm
by ewd506
Get Betty Ruth Johnson!!!!!!
Re: All the married folks....
Posted: Tue Feb 03, 2009 10:56 pm
by S Turn 2
Don't know you man or how it feels, but I am praying for you man.
Re: All the married folks....
Posted: Tue Feb 03, 2009 11:02 pm
by sondance
Bum: You have always seemed like a stright up guy willing to lend anyone a hand. I am sorry you got done wrong. I hope an dpray everything works out for you and your kids.
Re: All the married folks....
Posted: Tue Feb 03, 2009 11:15 pm
by Roach
Sorry to hear this TJ.
I don't know if you remember me but I came out to your house about 10 years ago with "Uncle Walt" and we looked at your layout boats.
I was going through the same crap at that time (without kids).
You will need to lean on your friends and most of all, remember that our God will not lead us to something that he won't help us make it through.
There is nothing "fair" in a divorce. I fought the divorce for over 2 years because "I didn't do anything" an argued that she shouldn't get crap because I caught her red handed TWICE!! The judge told me that it gave me grounds for the divorce, now split things down the middle.
I finally gave in and decided that I had to get on with my life.
When I was least expecting it, I stumbled on the best thing that every happened to me and now I have a little man that's almost 4, and a true "home" to come home to.
Life goes on and the better you try to make it, the better it will be.
One day you will find a way to forgive her, and then you will know that you are the better person for it.
If you need another friend thats been there done that, give me and Ole Uncle Walt a call (cold beer will be involved).
Brian
Re: All the married folks....
Posted: Tue Feb 03, 2009 11:28 pm
by GordonGekko
I hate to hear that TJ...I'm so sorry for what you and your girls are going through....if there is any way I can help, anything at all please give me a shout....
Re: All the married folks....
Posted: Tue Feb 03, 2009 11:35 pm
by SoftCall
Bum - I'll just lay it out there and acknowledge the fact that this sucks. I am sorry for you man and I hope that you spring back quick. Being betrayed is a hard fact to get past...but you will and probably alot faster than you can imagine. Take the high road and try not to harbor negative thoughts. You gotta think about the future and the fastest way to get there is to put this behind you as soon as you can. I don't know how to tell you to do it but I am sure that you will figure it out. Whenever you start feeling low, do something nice for someone. You are a stand up guy and you will prevail.
Re: All the married folks....
Posted: Wed Feb 04, 2009 1:01 am
by lilwhitelie
Dang that sucks. Man it just seems that spending time doing what you love in hunting etc just gives the other spouse an excuse to stray. I see it every hunting season. Poor guys gone to camp in the middle of nowhere just enjoying the outdoors and the spouse thinking they abandon them every weekend so they find comfort with someone else that doesn't hunt......hopefully not one of your friends cause that really sucks!!!!! When you find that special someone that understands hunting and your passion for it they will accept it and love you for you and realize that it won't change. I catch it on occasion and try and balance time at home and time hunting etc to avoid as much conflict as possible. Hope all ends well as it can for you. At least I didn't have any kids involved in my divorce and beleive me there aint nothing pretty about it. You will move on but again I was fortunate to not have any kids involved and I know it will hurt to see them spending time with her and the other man but they will remember who there father is and will one day understand you were not at fault for breaking up your family. Good luck to you.... prayers sent. At least you found out cause there are many out there that leave every weekend that have no clue that there wives are straying.
Re: All the married folks....
Posted: Wed Feb 04, 2009 5:46 am
by huntsober
Get Betty Ruth Johnson!!!!!!
I can relate....to the story. I got Betty Ruth and I am glad I did. Man that was over ten years ago and I can tell you now...They is a WHOLE bunch of good living past this situation. You will be amazed before you are have way through this. This too shall pass...
For what it worth...my daughter was 4...she is a senior now and can tell you she is happier with us apart.
Prayers sent...
Re: All the married folks....
Posted: Wed Feb 04, 2009 6:22 am
by rustypjr
NO words can be said to make you feel better or at peace, just know that me and countless others on this board are praying for you.
Re: All the married folks....
Posted: Wed Feb 04, 2009 6:54 am
by turkeyman
sorry TJ call me if you need anything. i got some birds that will easy your mind for a little time
Re: All the married folks....
Posted: Wed Feb 04, 2009 7:16 am
by 4dawgma
women suck, some more that others
Re: All the married folks....
Posted: Wed Feb 04, 2009 7:38 am
by slim jim
Prayer's sent for you and your girl's. I've been down that road before man and i no it suck's. It'll get better with time